Monday, October 26, 2009
Saturday, October 24, 2009
Of Loss, Grief and Bereavement
Just something I learnt lately and after watching Grey's Anatomy...and i'm not being EMO
So whats the difference between loss, grief and bereavement:
The feeling of loss comes when you have lost something you have placed value in. Exp: Handphone, wallet, etc
and
because of that, an emotion called grief which is a normal and dynamic process which will fill you up in response to the loss
then
you will go through bereavement which is the period after you experience grief (mourning) where you experience anger, sadness..etc
until
you find something to place value again...you are not really out of it...=)
more on grief>>
According Dr. Elisabeth Kubler-Ross there are -
5 Stages Of Grief
Denial and Isolation
At first, we tend to deny the loss has taken place, and may withdraw from our usual social contacts. This stage may last a few moments, or longer.
Anger
The grieving person may then be furious at the person who inflicted the hurt (even if she's dead), or at the world, for letting it happen. He may be angry with himself for letting the event take place, even if, realistically, nothing could have stopped it.
Bargaining
Now the grieving person may make bargains with God, asking, "If I do this, will you take away the loss?"
Depression
The person feels numb, although anger and sadness may remain underneath.
Acceptance
This is when the anger, sadness and mourning have tapered off. The person simply accepts the reality of the loss.
So whats the difference between loss, grief and bereavement:
The feeling of loss comes when you have lost something you have placed value in. Exp: Handphone, wallet, etc
and
because of that, an emotion called grief which is a normal and dynamic process which will fill you up in response to the loss
then
you will go through bereavement which is the period after you experience grief (mourning) where you experience anger, sadness..etc
until
you find something to place value again...you are not really out of it...=)
more on grief>>
According Dr. Elisabeth Kubler-Ross there are -
5 Stages Of Grief
Denial and Isolation
At first, we tend to deny the loss has taken place, and may withdraw from our usual social contacts. This stage may last a few moments, or longer.
Anger
The grieving person may then be furious at the person who inflicted the hurt (even if she's dead), or at the world, for letting it happen. He may be angry with himself for letting the event take place, even if, realistically, nothing could have stopped it.
Bargaining
Now the grieving person may make bargains with God, asking, "If I do this, will you take away the loss?"
Depression
The person feels numb, although anger and sadness may remain underneath.
Acceptance
This is when the anger, sadness and mourning have tapered off. The person simply accepts the reality of the loss.
Thursday, October 15, 2009
People
sometimes i find the people think very funny and silly la..
1) my parents- whom complaints about the need to drive me around but not letting me drive =.=
.....i know 'sweat' right...
2) random people- thinks to much about they reputation when they don't have [ a reputation at all] roflmao....XD seriously....realizing tht really made my day in some ways...=)
this is just my opinion and if you don't like it dont bother..
-the end-
1) my parents- whom complaints about the need to drive me around but not letting me drive =.=
.....i know 'sweat' right...
2) random people- thinks to much about they reputation when they don't have [ a reputation at all] roflmao....XD seriously....realizing tht really made my day in some ways...=)
this is just my opinion and if you don't like it dont bother..
-the end-
Kicking start SEM 2
Sem 2 this time has only 12 hours of studies *grins* on 3 days only *wider grins* and it's on monday,tuesday and wednesday * wider than the wider grins*
And after class on monday, Erika, Marilyn and I went to Alamanda cuz we wanted to watch a movie.(well it was more like I wanted to watch a movie and asked them come along as well =])
I tell you I seriously needed to get out of that place (hostel) because it was really really really hot. The weather was just SO DREADFUL man...felt like I was in a sauna.
at the end we didn't watch a movie thanks to Marilyn who pretty much watched everything there is to watch (the nice ones la) so potong steam.......
Yes so when when to eat sushi XD
and
Sushi= satisfied tummy + mouth watering sensation
-the end-
And after class on monday, Erika, Marilyn and I went to Alamanda cuz we wanted to watch a movie.(well it was more like I wanted to watch a movie and asked them come along as well =])
I tell you I seriously needed to get out of that place (hostel) because it was really really really hot. The weather was just SO DREADFUL man...felt like I was in a sauna.
at the end we didn't watch a movie thanks to Marilyn who pretty much watched everything there is to watch (the nice ones la) so potong steam.......
Yes so when when to eat sushi XD
and
Sushi= satisfied tummy + mouth watering sensation
-the end-
Thursday, October 1, 2009
From a new point of view!
Since Galen was being his procrastinated self and refuse to update his blog liked he promised to, I will it myself.
Yes I hacked into his blog without him knowing.
If you are wondering who am I, let's just say I'm someone close to him.
so here it goes...
1. I think that he has changed alot since he started going to MMU and alot things had happen since the second part of his 1st sem started. He told me that he's tired of pleasing the people around him and yea...it totally sucks! so well I told him that even the best cakes in the world can't satisfy all the people on earth so best thing to do is to ignore them i guess..what do you think? I mean putting ur foot into the situation will just probably make you worst right?
2. He said something about the exams the other day haha...I'm not really sure but it's something about him being caught stonning in the examination hall by the invigilators LOL! It was so funny...the invigilator actually had to wave his hands at his face to 'wake' him up lol! Not only that another incident was that he saw an invigilator sleeping on her job...these people are so..so...so haiz...(speechless) Exams drive ppl crazy and I ahve yet to meet one who actually loves exams.Oh well that day has to wait the.
3. After he had come back from camp he realised that he started getting sick of himself and live as there were so many things being said that so many goals were to be achieved but yet achieved. So things needs to be brought to the next level and remember that actions speaks louder than words..what more faith without actions is useless. It's time to make things happen.
Hmmm can't remember all the things he told me that's it! Maybe i'll update again if he doesn't realise this and if I can rememer more.
*period*
Yes I hacked into his blog without him knowing.
If you are wondering who am I, let's just say I'm someone close to him.
so here it goes...
1. I think that he has changed alot since he started going to MMU and alot things had happen since the second part of his 1st sem started. He told me that he's tired of pleasing the people around him and yea...it totally sucks! so well I told him that even the best cakes in the world can't satisfy all the people on earth so best thing to do is to ignore them i guess..what do you think? I mean putting ur foot into the situation will just probably make you worst right?
2. He said something about the exams the other day haha...I'm not really sure but it's something about him being caught stonning in the examination hall by the invigilators LOL! It was so funny...the invigilator actually had to wave his hands at his face to 'wake' him up lol! Not only that another incident was that he saw an invigilator sleeping on her job...these people are so..so...so haiz...(speechless) Exams drive ppl crazy and I ahve yet to meet one who actually loves exams.Oh well that day has to wait the.
3. After he had come back from camp he realised that he started getting sick of himself and live as there were so many things being said that so many goals were to be achieved but yet achieved. So things needs to be brought to the next level and remember that actions speaks louder than words..what more faith without actions is useless. It's time to make things happen.
Hmmm can't remember all the things he told me that's it! Maybe i'll update again if he doesn't realise this and if I can rememer more.
*period*
